How to Build Alliances

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In any organization, your success as a leader depends not just on your own performance, but on your ability to build alliances and influence key stakeholders. This is not about manipulation; it is about understanding the organizational landscape, building genuine relationships, and aligning your goals with the broader interests of the business.

The Art of Stakeholder Mapping

1. Identify Your Stakeholders: Think beyond your direct team to include peers, cross-functional partners, senior leaders, and external partners.
2. Analyze Their Influence and Interest: Use the Power/Interest Grid to plot each stakeholder based on their ability to influence outcomes and their level of concern.
3. Understand Their Motivations: For your high-power stakeholders, dig deeper into their personal and professional goals and biggest challenges.

Strategies for Building Alliances

1. Build Relationships Before You Need Them: Connect with key stakeholders on a regular basis, even when you do not have a specific ask.
2. The Principle of Reciprocity: People are more likely to help you if you have helped them first. Look for opportunities to provide value without expecting anything in return.
3. Find Common Ground: Frame your proposals as solutions to shared problems, not as personal requests.
4. Communicate in Their Language: Tailor your communication style to each stakeholder's preferences.

Navigating Resistance

• Listen to Understand: When a stakeholder raises an objection, get curious rather than defensive.
• Acknowledge and Validate: Before countering their argument, acknowledge their point of view.
• Reframe as a Joint Problem: Turn the objection into a problem you can solve together.

Building alliances is at the heart of effective leadership. It requires empathy, strategic thinking, and a long-term perspective.

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About Her Success Coach

Iveta Dulova is an executive and leadership coach for women with a decade of experience in global technology and a Masters in Coaching and Leadership from the University of Cambridge. She works with women managers, directors, and founders across technology, financial services, and consulting who want to build executive presence, negotiate with confidence, and build a career that reflects their values rather than their fears.

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